Hindu weddings ॐ

Hindu weddings, one of the religions with so many details to a simple wedding. There are so many things you need organise for a perfect hindu wedding. I can see how everything has changed when it comes to hindu weddings now, people have created their own ways of getting married. However in my household we like doing things the classic and old school way. I don't know why I prefer the way things were done back in the old days. All these fancy things isn't right, after all its the believes which matters. One of the main details of a wedding is getting the right thali, thali is the symbol of the entire marriage. Thali is what the girl gets put on by her husband to be, similar to christians with their rings. Then again back in Sri Lanka we have christians who actually have a thali as well. The will have the exact same shape as ours but with a cross symbol in the middle. I do believe its quite nice, specially when you see people to weddings you cant see the difference as everyone would be wearing a thali. I have not heard any other race where christians actually have a thali. I guess its a tamil culture, I do apologise if I wrote this wrong as I far as I know I haven’t heard anyone have a thali apart from the tamil christians. However in the hindu religion we have two types of thalis one is called the amman thali and other one is pillaiyar well there are other ones but I am not aware of these. Amman is for people who are lovers who doesn't check their star signs to make sure this is their match according to the star signs. Pillaiyar is for people who check these and everything turns out they are perfectly matching. They have so many types of thalis made nowadays I think they best and classic one is the minnal kodi. They are more like a piece of gold thread which is actually the proper way of getting married. In the old days they made thalis with a yellow thread and gold at the bottom with the god and the coins. Now people have changed them and they come in different types. Some have those thick ones which looks thick and they are just hollow inside. I don't understand the need to show off who has the biggest and heaviest thali. I think the minnal kodi is more closer to looking like they actually yellow thread.

Thalis are defiantly the symbol of a perfect marriage. I think it brings a special glow on the woman wearing these. Majority of the friends I have who got married actually wear their thali on daily basis. I find it cute but then again we have to be aware of the thieves on the road who are looking to snatch jewellery. I think I heard several people in Wembley, London have got their thalis pulled off by their own race men. So this could have been a tamil aunty who got her thali stolen by a tamil male. When I heard this story I said I am very sorry the lady wasn't showing her thali out in public and if he still got attacked then it must be someone who has been watching her or someone who knows she wears it out. You can't trust anyone who wouldn't want to get hold of a piece of jewellery which is worth more then £2000. I find it quite upsetting for those people but then again, I do think its safer to take it off when you go out. Not everyone would actually think like us there are people out there who finds it easy to just steal something so meaningful of others and sell it. I don't understand the happiness they get as their own mothers would have one of these its the symbol of a woman love to her husband.

Hindu weddings are beautiful, all the details do tell us a story. If you marry the right man a simple wedding is more than enough. In my world fancy big weddings are not worth it. I rather have a simple wedding with my close loved ones and show my love to my husband to be. I want a ceremony for my loved ones not all these people who I never knew existed till the day before my wedding. Then they come to your wedding offer you money as an symbol of their love, money which you need to return back to them. The amount has to be the same not less or you can add a couple of quid extra and they might come back to your party and give you even more. The more they add and the more you add in return for their parties is how you keep the debt going. I don't understand it, this is nonsense. Sometimes I do feel sorry for myself to have become apart of this massive culture who have no idea of how this looks. You get married finally and then you are left in debt on top of all the money you spent not the wedding already. One thing ill admit is hindu weddings are beautiful, you have so many people there. Some people like things the simple way however some need half the world to come. A wedding should be a happy celebration between two families no one else.